When we are told we suffer from any disorders, we may feel upset. Anxiety, fear and discomfort become our companions-they are difficult to cope with and they may be long lasting. How can we face a PCOS diagnosis?
When we have health problems we may experience very different moods and states of mind. First of all, when we are told about the diagnosis we are suddenly thrown into a new condition, we detect a break between our old routine and our new condition: we used to feel healthy, our life used to be constant and steady. All in a sudden, we are getting into a new life, a worse one: now we are “ill”. We think we are worse than we used to be. But is this really true?
A PCOS diagnosis should be communicated with sensitivity and consideration-that’s why the specialist is the one who can really make the difference from the physiological point of view as this is an important side of the program of the cure. But most of all, the opinion we have about ourselves is what will lead us through the disorder and its cure. Well, it is the meaning we give to our life and experience and the imagine we have of ourselves which will determine how traumatic the diagnosis will be. And it may also have a great impact on the prognosis. What does PCOS diagnosis mean? Definitely, we haven’t become ill. We haven’t lost anything, we are not ‘something else’, we have not been down-graded, we still have the same opportunities we used to have. It means we suffer from a disorder. Our body is going through an unbalance and appropriate care has to be given to get to a healthy condition again.
The way we describe ourselves, the way we talk about what we are going through are really important to understand what is happening to us, to face it better, to avoid more and more stress which will just worsen our condition. If we consider ourselves ‘ill’, we will immediately throw ourselves into a negative state which will lead to passivity, feeling of inferiority, loss. We will behave differently from we used to; we will feel less confident, ‘cracked’, limited, and losers. We may get very worried, resigned and dismayed as we think we will be like that forever, we will be trapped in this condition which makes us different from the other women.
Well: trying to understand what our disorder, PCOS is, is the first thing to do. Ask your specialist for clear, and easy information about it, and about its mechanisms-don’t be afraid, be careful, attentive and curios: take the chance to get to know about some new mechanisms of the body. Don’t waste time: we have to understand ourselves and our body. We have to understand what the doctor tells us- don’t feel embarrassed, ashamed, or silly, ask the doctor plenty of information. If we understand what’s happening, we will be able to carry on the cure better, we will know what we have to do and what we have to avoid. We are scared of what we don’t know because we think it is not under control.
The first reaction to a disorder diagnosis is always source of dismay, but we have to feel our sensation, we have to express our discomfort, we have to look for support and consolation- it is the only way to deal with it. We are not afraid of the news of our disorder, but we are afraid of being alone, misunderstood, left out, different, isolated. The partner and the team of doctors are a fundamental ‘psychic place’, a shelter, and a refuge. Meeting other women who are coping with the PCOS may make feel us we are not alone. We have to express what is inside us: we feel that something is threatening our life plan, our desires, our expectancy. We have to set free our anger, our depression, our fears, our envy for those who are still carefree, and ‘untouched’ whereas we are disintegrated, cracked, flawed: we aren’t self confident any more. The confirmation we are suffering from PCOS makes us, at least temporarily, more vulnerable: this difficult and frail moment of life should be respected-we need calmness, quietness, comfort, and support. We should take shelter in the home of our ‘affection and love’: the people who are the family bonds. They make our life meaningful, they give us the strength, the resolution, and the positivity to organize ourselves to face the change. The physiotherapeutic support is part of the background-
it may become a very effective way to elaborate the emotive impact of the diagnosis and organize the most suitable behavior to face it.
Eventually, the word ‘crisis’ in Japanese language means ‘danger’ and ‘chance’ at the same time. According to that culture, every change, every sudden break of the status quo (as the disease is) doesn’t take only sorrow and renounces, but also new perspectives: looking for a healthier lifestyle will mean also positive changes, meeting new people, new experience, food for thoughts. It is a positive, deep and useful message which partially beats the fear; don’t you think so?